American Asshole: Turning America Into a Ghost

I rarely get involved in anything political.  You’re hard-pressed to find me debating elections, promoting any political candidate or even paying the news a bit of mind.

Having prefaced this post with all that, this is going to get political.  This post is going to enrage people.  Some of whom are complete strangers and some of whom are near and dear friends of mine.  This post is going to make people stop reading my blog.  And…you know what?  Good.  If I’m eliciting responses so passionate, I’m barking up the right tree.  And honestly if you feel so strongly that you want to unfriend/unfollow/unwhatever yours truly, please do so.  Be advised that any comments not in good taste will not be allowed and deleted immediately.


And, beware reader: this will be no lukewarm attempt at rationalizing anything.  If you know me at all, lukewarm is just something I don’t do.  I was writing this post in my head on the way home, near tears.

I have some questions and I’m having a hard time understanding quite a lot, lately.  It’s no newsflash as to what has been going on in France and the connection and loathsome response of Americans to Syrian refugees.  If you’re not up to speed, please let me know under what rock you’re living so I can join you because to hell with all this.

Unless I’m mistaken, many people are vehemently against allowing any refugees into our country and several states are making a move to ban the allowing of refugees into specific states.  So, my question is since when is this response of what I would call an irrational and misinformed fear more righteous than a response than that of bravery, honor and most of all love?  Since when do you get to decide that your fear will directly impact another human’s life?

Do any of you think that our country would even be what it is now if it weren’t for this nation taking on souls flung from worlds we cannot understand…people who are just seeking a safe haven from persecution and death?  Does anyone actually think we’d be better by not opening our doors and our hearts to another human in absolute and dire need?  Really, tell me if you do…I cannot understand.

Unless I’m further mistaken, that stoic woman out on Ellis Island is supposed to be symbolic, a gift from a foreign nation no less, and a beacon of refuge.  The very ideal you’re bragging being in opposition of all over social media.

Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame,
With conquering limbs astride from land to land;
Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall stand
A mighty woman with a torch, whose flame
Is the imprisoned lightning, and her name
Mother of Exiles. From her beacon-hand
Glows world-wide welcome; her mild eyes command
The air-bridged harbor that twin cities frame.

“Keep, ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she
With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me,
I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”


For everyone saying that we need to help our own: you’re absolutely right.  I implore you…what are you doing to help?  You there on your tablet, downloading music wirelessly, hanging your Christmas lights and planning whether you’ll have cranberry sauce with or without stems this year.  You…the one that drops change into the red bucket outside the department store (of which it’s likely the majority will not go to anyone in need).  I’m looking at all you people who vacation and stand in front of a beautiful wonder in nations so foreign your world explodes and yet condemn its citizens when they knock at your door.

You think that by halting people in desperate need from coming to a nation noted for its opportunity that plentiful resources will suddenly spring up for American citizens in need?  That have been in need for a very long time?  That, from legislation out of nowhere our homeless, our veterans, our underpaid and overworked will all of the sudden be fixed?  Because we’ve been on that road for all the years prior to this refugee situation, right? Those things do not equate, friend. There is no logic here…actually, it sounds like a cop out.

And who the hell are you to decide that the ideals from which the very fabric of our country was woven are exhausted?  That they’re not applicable anymore?  That when we opened our doors years ago things were different?   When does a mass of people suddenly think they’re so righteous to decide who is allowed to be loved, when and how much?  Shame on you.  Shame on all of you.

Like it or not, these are absolutely your brothers and sisters.  These are your family.  These are your humans and you are theirs.  We’re all in this shit-house of a mess together.  Unless you can somehow make the argument that these refugees deserved this treatment…which, you can’t.  Because I’m a sane fucking person (probably out for debate).


America is a melting pot of cultures, languages, ethnic groups…there is no establishment of what an “American” is.  There was a time when we would allow people an opportunity to become a part of this awfully beautiful giant pot of people and we welcomed them.  Their customs and traditions became some of our customs and traditions.  Their family is your family.  Those tired, poor huddled masses are my family.

Who the fuck are you to decide that ends here?  That because you can jump on Facebook and nod your head in agreement to a post another person circulated and because this is your lifetime, a small and winking light in a massive, black starscape that is this crazy, shitty, awful world…so fleeting and insignificant in the greater scope of things…who are you to decide that this country and that wonderful, terrifying and beautiful woman on Ellis Island are turning their back on fellow human beings when they need us the most?  Why do you get to make that call?

I am extremely proud to be an American.  I’m a veteran’s wife, I’m an educated woman and maybe a bit of an idealist.  Let’s face it, my success as a writer depends very much on me not being a realist.  I have no answers to this country’s problems and I’m not suggesting that I know who does.  But goddammit, I’m angry.  I’m red in the face reading some of the absolutely disgusting and shameful drivel of people that I love…that I respect.  I’m heartsick thinking about our quickness to condemn people who haven’t wronged us…because we’re fucking scared…of all things.

The last time I checked, and please correct me if I’m wrong, it’s highly unlikely that any of you have been adrift at sea, begging, dying, drowning to just see The Statue of Liberty’s face.  We have not a shred of insight as to what it would be to stand weeping, understanding that your life is forever changed to be better…to be livable.  To be survivable. To know that face is the most necessary thing to your right to life… We can’t understand that.

We see her back.  We think that because we’re behind her…because we just were lucky enough to be born here or gained citizenship here that we have some sort of right to this soil…to keep it from a life tugged around in a rip current.  We’re on the inside pushing outward.  You all think it’s fine to stand by, chin stuck out, gaping at struggling souls, trapped in a world that they didn’t ask to be a part of.

How dare any of you think that our country is changing everything it’s been about in this moment because you’re deciding “we’re full” which is absolutely asinine.  That we’ll become a nation unto ourselves, draw our shades and mind our own business?  And, foolishly think that our retched citizens right here at home will all be remembered and saved if we deny an opportunity to other retched souls?  That you’re so entitled? You don’t want to rub shoulders with someone who speaks a language other than your own?  You don’t want to breathe the same air as someone who wears a burka or a turban?  As someone who so desperately seeks to survive?  Maybe even flourish?  Because we’re too poor?  Because we don’t have the resources?

You’re so convinced that our country will somehow get worse…that anyone who is different than you wants to kill you and rape your children.  Congratulations.  You’re lucky enough to be an American…lucky enough to have been birthed, smacked on the ass by a doctor til you screamed and gulped a breath of air, raised and bred here in this country…by no request or behest of your own.  You’re lucky enough to have opinions to express even if they’re cold, cruel and un-American…because you’re entitled to that.

You’re also an asshole.

14 thoughts on “American Asshole: Turning America Into a Ghost

  1. Wow. “Passionate” is an understatement in describing your latest work. Bottom line, I’m not an asshole for wanting “legal” and controlled immigration. Every other nation does it, why can’t we? Why must we allow folks into this country whose sole goal is to tear it down, to
    Denigrate and destroy our culture and traditions? It’s their responsibility to assimilate to this nation not mine to them.
    Great article but I disagree with it.


    • I totally expected you to disagree with it, Wolfy. You’re entitled to your opinion and it’s always been kind of funny to me how we see eye-to-eye in so many areas but politics. I thank you for reading and your feedback. As far as assimilation… You mean to speak Spanish? To be atheist? To be gay? These are the people of America. Assimilate to be what? And how could they when masses of people are so staunchly against it?


  2. You said if you can’t understand this isn’t about terrorists then not bother posting. The problem with your train of thought is you can’t identify who the terrorists are and who is not. We do not have a comprehensive vetting system in place to screen these folks. Go find a den of rattle snakes, reach in and pick up the nice one that won’t bite you and take him home. That is what you are asking us to do. I fought them there so I wouldn’t have to do it here. Why should we open the gates and push in the Trojan horse? Is one American life worth you being wrong?I have sponsored three Iraqis to come live here in the States, but they went through a very comprehensive screening process. Just make sure you are willing for them to come live with you. (Reference your article above) “what are you doing to help”. You said you don’t watch the news, well maybe you should so you can understand what is going on in the world around you. You can even watch Rachael Meddows if you wish. If you did, you would know that ISIS has already stated that they will use this to get fighters into the US. WAKE UP!!


    • Are thousands of human lives worth you being wrong or scared? I never claimed to understand the logistics of allowing the refugees to come here and I, like you, think background investigations are warranted. I am extremely thankful for your service and would never have the audacity to feel anything else. However, last I checked, my veteran didn’t fight to keep people seeking a better life out of our country. And how dare we let our fear decide that so many people should be denied refuge in our country with such a strong presence as a country FOR refuge.

      I didn’t write this to get people to agree with me. I didn’t write this for anyone’s approval and I certainly didn’t write it to be stigmatized as a “sheep” or to be deemed endorsing of any terrorist organizations. I, like many writers do, write to express my frustration and elation. Also, your comparison of human refugees to rattlesnakes is ridiculous.

      Lastly, I don’t have to watch the news to know about terrorists, about ISIL or about bad people wishing and doing harm to others. I also don’t have to watch the news to know that many of my fellow Americans are threatened by something they don’t even try to understand… Like Islam, like paganism, like ancient cultures. Also, the news is a poor and unfortunate place to get, well… News. And that’s shitty. Biases are very real… Misinformation is very real and a push to keep people scared and angry is very real.

      I really cannot entertain the thought that these refugees are more dangerous or will wreck our country more that it already is, more than we’ve done ourselves or more than any of the other refugee movements that happened before you or I were around. Were the refugees before OK because they were European and spoke latin-based languages? Why didn’t we deny the Jews refuge and keep that “Trojan Horse” out our country?

      These refugees are not the terrorists we’re fighting. That’s the bottom line. Are you going to perform a background check on all the homeless people we as Americans give our change to every day? No? Because they’re already here, they speak English and they’re white they’re not a potential terrorist? Did background checks stop the Americans that have been running into schools with semiautomatic weapons? I’m sure this is one of those problems we need to fix before we let strangers facing oppression and persecution into our country… Cause we’ve been doing such a great job at that.

      Evil is present in many hearts and doesn’t discriminate, apparently, according to where you’re from.


      • “Why didn’t we deny the Jews refuge and keep that “Trojan Horse” out our country?”

        Sadly, we didn’t react too well historically in these situations either.

        World War II is when we locked United States citizens in internment camps because they were also Japanese or of Japanese descent.

        We eventually took in many Jewish refugees, but early on in the war we were not so sympathetic:

        I think we can be better and do better to one another, and my pride comes from thinking that now and in the future we will learn from our past mistakes.

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      • I don’t think there are many times when the majority has been in favor of this type of thing. But we let them in and our country did not end up in ruin… Well, that may be up for debate.

        I fear that the eyes, minds and hearts of “the future” are seeming less and less open.


      • I am all for help those who need help. If you know what I knew you would be afraid also. We have intelligence that verifies ISIS is using this to get fighters into other countries. So you can say I’m afraid are I’m saying this out of fear thats fine. What is happening in Paris will happen here. I just want everyone checked before they enter and we can’t do that at this time. Ask youself why aren’t other Muslim countries taking these people in? Because they know what will happen!


      • What’s happening in Paris has happened here… How many mass shootings have we incurred? And by the hands of our own? People brutally slaughtered in places they thought they were safe at the hands of extremists… Killing for religion, ideals, anger, fear, and no regard for human life.

        There are countries full of Christians, Muslims, atheists, gnostics and Wiccans that are taking them in. Just because some countries aren’t doesn’t make it morally sound. I understand where you’re coming from and respect your opinion. I’m positive you’re privy to information I’m not but there’s validity in how I feel. Maybe you don’t feel it’s valid but it’s not actually up to you.

        ISIL uses fear to breed hatred and intolerance. And it’s terribly sad that it’s working. Not sure why I’m supposed to believe anything ISIS members claim, as far as intelligence verifying what they’re saying.

        I appreciate the conversation and your passion for what you believe. In the sincerest way, Rob.


  3. You’re already getting some well-reasoned, well-thought-out responses. Good for you, kiddo! You are barking up the right tree. 😉 No, there’s no fear there in the above comments, now is there? Fear — plain and simple — is what drives so much of the above rhetoric. This is America. We take people in. We help them. It’s what we do. It’s what we should all do, but Fox News is in the business of banging the fear drum to keep a percentage of white Christian males scared shitless enough that they forget they live in the land of the free and the home of the brave.

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    • So. Absolutely. True. That’s what I’m trying to say. I’m glad you concur and I hope that the fear subsides and gives way to a rational realization that this is, and should be, bigger than our fear. Thanks for the read!


  4. I see that Rob has addressed my only thought unanswered while reading this. I agree with some, and disagree with other parts. My only question is.. With your rationalization and thoughts could you in good faith take one of these so called refugees into your home with complete trust and faith? Know in your soul you and yours would be safe and unharmed? In my heart of hearts, or if you must my completely human side, I feel I could take in a child. I am unsure how I feel about adults, due to things like the world trade center. I fully agree we keep over stating to help our own, and do jack shit to accomplish this. America has always been a melting pot of cultures and races, however they managed to get here, and I agree we should allow immigration with very strict standards. As always your writing is passionate and I can feel your anger drip freely from your text. I love the fact that you challenge our thought as well. Keep up the good work.

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    • Honestly, I do feel that way. We’ve opened our hearts and home to people before with no regard to whatever prejudices we may have. That’s not to say there wouldn’t be caution that comes with that. Thanks for reading!


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